Name: Jermaine Walker
Occupation: IT Project Manager
City & State: Elkridge, MD
Married to: Trina Walker
How many years have you been married? 8 years in July
Why was marriage important to you? I went to bed and woke up with my soon to be wife on my mind. I loved her daughter as if she was my own, as she did with my son. Everything in my life seemed right and I was fully committed to her, and our family…. And of course I Love Her!!!!
What encouraging words would you give to help another man understand the importance of marriage? Never feel like you have to be pressured into doing it, because you are setting yourself up to fail. When you set her as your number one priority without even forcing it; when you can’t picture your future without her in it; when you have to make life changing decisions and you need her input because you want it; when you can US over I and mean it…. Then you understand the importance of your union.
What is something that you wish someone would have shared with you about marriage that you can share to enlighten others? There is nothing that I believe that someone could have shared with me, as my wife is different from most women I’ve dated or someone who I would have envisioned myself being with when I was younger.
What would you say is a key component to a successful marriage? Respect, while you may differ in views, disagree on topics, challenge each other in mode of thinking, even argue (it will happen)…. Respect the one you love
What advice would you give to a woman about preparing to be a wife? Do not seek marital advice from
those who aren’t or never been married.
What are some things that you appreciate about your wife? My wife is very supportive and encourage me to grow. She doesn’t try to change me, but give me the space to change myself. She lifts me when I’m down, cares for me when I’m not well, and provides another way of thinking when dealing with perplexed problems.
India Arie wrote a song about a love in her life called complicated melody…she uses interesting analogies to describe a few of his characteristics. Use one of her examples to give an analogy of your wife or feel free to use one of your own. We summarize our relationship with the song from Musiq Soulchild called “WhoKnows”…. We never envisioned us being married, when we started dating as we both were dealing with issues in our own personal lives. As the smoke cleared from what we were dealing with, we were still standing there together. We both live our lives for us, two free spirited people who both feel that if we not hurting anyone and we want to do it, then we will. We only have one life, so live it and we chose to do it together.
Bonus question: Do you think that marriage is 50/50? Overall, it is 50/50, while one may carry a bigger burden in one thing, you may carry less with something else. Things tend to even out in the long run. It’s even that way financially with us. While we both have a personal account, all of our expenses (mortgage, bills, gas, child expenses) come out of a joint account